Did you make a New Year’s resolution for 2020? Unfortunately, only about 8% of Americans who set resolutions keep them. Maybe it’s too early to tell whether you’re in the 8 or 92 percent. Even if you didn’t make a resolution, it’s likely you’ll pursue some sort of valued outcome in 2020. Reduce stress, lose weight, exercise more, save money, travel, learn a new skill, get a promotion. As you do, think of the advice from this article: scrap your resolution and try this instead!
What Is ‘This?‘
‘This’ is about creating positive changes that last. In other words, positive habit formation. Instead of resolutions, which often don’t produce results, try a 30-day practice supported by your character strengths.
Full disclosure: the 30-day practice isn’t a scientifically derived framework, but it is grounded in science. Most importantly, it works. I’ve seen hundreds of people use the 30-day practice to become healthier, enjoy life, and get things done, one small positive habit at a time. I’ve used it myself, completing more than fifty 30-day practices over the past years. My character strengths helped along the way.
When people use their character strengths, they follow their own will and natural capacities to fulfill their potential and achieve their goals, which would lead to valued outcomes such as achievements and well-being. (Linley and Harrington, 2006)
A 30-Day Practice Helped Me Finish My Book
In late 2017 I was struggling to finish writing my book 30 Days of Character Strengths: A Guided Practice to Ignite Your Best. Every author finds his or her own writing rhythm. Some write all weekend, week, or month. I elevated prudence, a lower strength, and scheduled blocks of time in my calendar for writing. Unfortunately, this precious time got sucked up by other priorities.
As time passed, my confidence waned. Who was I to think I could write a book? I thought about giving up many times. However, I knew in my heart this work was needed in the world. Perseverance, a lower strength, helped me keep pushing forward.
Ironically, my book is a 30-day practice. It guides the reader to cultivate his or her character strengths, starting with basic activities that grow in complexity. How could I ask my readers to do something I wasn’t willing to do? My sense of fairness, a middle strength, wouldn’t allow that. I began a 30-day writing practice.
Getting Engaged Was Easy– Staying Engaged Was Hard
Starting with just 5 minutes per day, Monday through Friday, I committed to sitting down first thing each morning, setting a timer, and writing for 5 minutes. Even if it was gibberish. No judgment. I figured everyone has 5 spare minutes in their day – even me.
I wrote 5 minutes almost daily for several weeks. Occasionally, I forgot so I posted sticky note reminders on my laptop and set alerts on my phone. I felt some resistance to this structure, and seeing these reminders felt annoying at times but I spent the 5 minutes writing anyway.
If I skipped a day, I used forgiveness, a middle strength, and decided not to berate myself. I returned to the practice the next day.
With trepidation, I dragged myself to my laptop many days. Other times the 5 minutes would stretch into 20. My practice was up and down for a while. I tried to accept this with openness and curiosity and focus on progress, not the end goal.
Naturally, I felt energized to see the ideas leaving my head and getting captured on paper. With more visible signs of progress, I carved out even more time – an hour or more daily.
My #1 strength creativity helped me juggle my schedule to prioritize writing. My perspective, #3 strength, shifted and I got clearer about what was needed to finish – the hours of writing, the calendar time, the external help, the energy. This was key because then I could put a realistic plan in place to finish.
As I met each milestone, I knew I was up for the challenge of finishing. I even completed the 30-day practice in my book twice, to ensure I knew what kind of adventure I was leading my readers on.
In a nutshell, I’ve witnessed people boost relationships, health, happiness, and get a lot of important things done. The 30-day practice enlivened me and put me on the path to finishing my book. I established a positive writing habit, which I still tap into today. I’m not sure I would have finished without it. Along the way, my character strengths helped me overcome obstacles and accomplish one of my most meaningful goals.
Notably, of hundreds of people I’ve seen attempt a 30-day practice only one didn’t feel successful with it. She made the attempt numerous times, but it just didn’t fit with her lifestyle. Not everything works for everyone, but in my experience this practice works for most.
Why not give it a try? In part 2 of this post you’ll learn how to set up and lead your own 30-day practice. Then you can experiment with character strengths that will help along the way.
Step 1 involves choosing a practice. Start by putting on your creativity hat and brainstorming any meaningful, valued outcome that you’re excited about. Perhaps you wish to relax more, exercise 3 times a week, or use your strengths more vigorously. Pay close attention to what energizes you. Stay away from the “ought to do’s.”
Step 2 involves clarifying your practice so you know if you’ve accomplished it or not. “Meditate 5 minutes each day.” “Exercise for 15 minutes three times weekly.” “Apply a signature strength to 3 routine duties at work daily.” Either you did or you didn’t.
Step 3 is getting started. In my next post, I’ll offer additional insights and tips for success. If you want support, I’d love to join you on your journey. Feel free to contact me. In the meantime, good luck!
Linley P. A., Harrington S. (2006). Strengths coaching: a potential-guided approach to coaching psychology. International Coaching Psychology Review. 1 37-46.
Whether you’re celebrating Christmas, Chanukah, Kwanzaa, or the new year, this can be a time of both joy and sorrow, endings and beginnings. And stress. Even if you’re in a good place in your life, there’s bound to be stress. You might need to navigate bad weather, difficult relationships, or juggling too much to do at work and home. When besieged by stress during the holidays, or any time of year, there are things you can do to boost your stress resilience. Your character strengths can help.
What is Stress Resilience?
The symptoms of life’s daily stressors – a racing heart, shortness of breath, difficulty concentrating – can trigger anxiety or fear. Most of us think of stress as the enemy because we’re afraid of its harmful effects on our bodies and minds. But studies have shown that we have everything we need to benefit from stress and in fact become stress resilient.
I’m not talking about long-term stress due to traumatic experiences. Chronic stress can increase the risk of illness, depression, and even death. If you’re suffering from chronic stress, know that this article is only a starting point and isn’t meant to replace other helpful options, like seeking professional help.
Resilience is about responding to adversity in healthful ways. Not everyone who encounters adversity is harmed physically, mentally, or emotionally by the experience. No two people respond to the same stressful situation in the same way. Those who fare better may be more stress resilient, which is about choosing a response that is beneficial, not harmful.
Kelly McGonigal, Stanford lecturer and stress expert, says that the harmful effects of stress aren’t inevitable as she and other experts once thought they were. In her 2014 TED talk How To Make Stress Your Friend, she discusses how to change the body’s response to stress.
In other words, instead of working to rid yourself of stress you can practice responding to it differently. This isn’t meant to be a quick fix, but with practice you can learn to respond in healthier ways.
Two Ways to Respond Differently
#1 – Shift Your Beliefs and Thoughts About Stress
If you believe stress is the enemy,
this message is especially for you. Studies have shown that if you believe
stress is harmful, it probably will be. You might interpret physical changes –
your heart pounding, rapid breathing, increased sweating – as signs of stress
or anxiety. Although this is a natural response to stress, it can lead to an
unproductive downward spiral of negative thinking and actions.
Instead, what if you could change
that response to one that’s more accurate and helpful? If you begin to
understand that the body is actually preparing you for the challenge you’re
facing, you can change the way you think and feel about stress, and the body is
likely to follow.
Where do character strengths fit in? For starters, engage Love of Learning, a wisdom strength, to help you understand what happens physically when the body is under stress. For instance:
Your body’s natural response is to release adrenaline, a stress hormone that initiates physical changes like increasing the heart rate, blood pressure, and oxygen flow. It kicks the body’s systems into high gear.
These physical changes help ensure that more oxygen is getting to the brain and other organs.
Your energy level increases, preparing you to take action and rise to whatever challenge you face.
Below are other ways your character
strengths can help you practice choosing how you respond to stress:
Use Self-Regulation to notice and name the signs of stress as they’re occurring – the racing heart, the sweating, rapid breathing. Remind yourself that your body is preparing you to rise to the challenge.
Use your other wisdom strengths to learn more about what’s going on around and within you. Use your Creativity and Curiosity to personify the stress and ask yourself: What is this stress telling me to do? Or not do? Use Perspective to take a wider view of the situation and Judgment to think critically about what’s happening.
In addition to adrenaline, there’s a
lesser-known hormone that’s also part of the stress response: oxytocin.
Oxytocin is a natural anti-inflammatory that may help regulate fear and
anxiety. Oxytocin is also known for its role in social bonding.
In a stressful situation, the
release of oxytocin motivates you to seek social support. Below are a few
simple actions you can take when under duress:
Tell someone how you feel.
Surround yourself with people who care about you.
If you have an instinct to withdraw, try to resist it.
How can your character strengths help? Try tapping into any of the three humanity strengths that support strong relationships: Love, Kindness, and Social Intelligence. If any of these are your signature strengths, you might already be naturally engaging them.
If these are your middle or lower strengths, you can bring them forth at any time. Call a trusted friend or family member. Give, or ask for, a long hug. Allow yourself a form of Kindness you might not normally extend to yourself – time to read a good book or a meal out with a friend.
In addition to the humanity
strengths, perhaps the courage strengths would help you connect with others. Persevering
through difficult conversations can help you connect with others despite the
anxiety or fear you might be feeling. Zest can activate the energy you
need to stay engaged. Brave actions you’ve taken in the past might inform
what you do in the present situation. Honesty might help you to feel
more open and real rather than self-conscious.
McGonigal says that when you view stress
in this way, you’re trusting yourself to handle life’s challenges. And you’re
remembering that you don’t have to face them alone.
We’ve been given the gift of having everything we need to care for ourselves and others, especially when under duress. In a season that seems full of bright lights and shiny objects, perhaps that is the biggest and best gift of all. Take good care during these holidays.
WISHING YOU MUCH STRESS RESILIENCE & JOY THIS HOLIDAY SEASON!
Here in the United States we’re approaching the Thanksgiving holiday. Whether you’re celebrating Thanksgiving or something else right now, it’s the holiday season for most of us. As you might already know, experiences and emotions around the holidays can run high, ranging from joy and camaraderie to loneliness and depression. Wherever you are on that continuum, your character strengths can help boost your enjoyment, buffer stress, and even reduce depression. Below is a recipe for a delicious, strengths-fueled Thanksgiving. Share it with all who wish to make every day a holiday.
Top 3 signature strengths 2 parts strengths-spotting 1 or more “happiness strengths” (I recommend Gratitude and Hope, for starters) At least 1 overused strength, tempered At least 1 underused strength, elevated
Choose 3 of your top signature strengths, and identify one new way you’ll express them Thanksgiving day.
Using a signature strength in a new way every day for a week can increase happiness and reduce depression. To identify your signature strengths, take the free, scientific survey.
I’m choosing my top 3 – Creativity, Humor and Perspective. For Creativity, I’ll experiment with cranberry relish flavors and create my own new recipe. I love unleashing my Creativity in the kitchen, combining flavors in interesting ways. When I think of my family enjoying my creations, I feel contented and happy.
Humor will lighten my mood when I start feeling the weight of everything that came before – the push to finish work projects, last-minute shopping, cooking, cleaning and setting up. My all-time favorite video makes me laugh every time. I can’t resist those cherubic faces and the giggles that come from them. Watching the quadruplets always brightens my day and provides a burst of enjoyment.
When feeling depleted, whether temporarily or chronically, it’s important to remind yourself of the things that support your well-being. So I’ll place a sticky note that says “quadruplets” on the kitchen wall. Not only will this remind me to engage my Humor and prioritize my well-being, it’s also a conversation starter.
Perspective is probably my
best friend when in pressure-filled situations. During holidays, there never
seems to be enough time to work, exercise, sleep, shop, cook, clean, and
prepare for the relationship drama that sometimes sprouts up. Of course, I want
time with family and friends to be picture-perfect, but it never is. It’s just
not realistic to think it will be.
Instead, I will periodically step
back to take in and notice what everyone is doing. Are we enjoying ourselves? Does
anyone seem to be in distress? Is there something I can do or not do to create
a more positive experience? I like to enjoy myself when with family and friends,
and Perspective helps me do that.
Which of your top strengths will you choose for your holiday recipe? If you’d like to feel more confident discussing your strengths, consider registering for a personal coaching session with me toPower Upand strengthen your strengths.
Add 2 parts strengths-spotting in yourself and the people around you.
Strengths-spotting is a gift you can give on every occasion. It is the gift of seeing and valuing others for their best qualities. When your 10-year-old is behaving well, appreciate her Self-regulation. When you notice someone being helpful, point out his Kindness. Don’t forget to notice your own strengths – how your Bravery led you to this moment in time, or how your Honesty is helping you feel or act authentically.
Choose 1 or more “happiness strengths” and add a healthy portion of each. I recommend Gratitude and Hope for the Thanksgiving holiday.
Five character strengths are highly correlated with life satisfaction and happiness. These strengths are Gratitude, Hope, Love, Zest, and Curiosity.Gratitude is inherent in the Thanksgiving holiday, but we don’t always remember to express it. No matter how bad things get, there is always something to feel grateful for – the sunny sky, a dear friend, good health. Take a moment before sitting down for a meal to notice and appreciate the blessings in your life. If you’re with others, ask each person to name what or who they feel grateful for, and notice the elevation effect.
Add at least 1 overused strength, tempered, and 1 underused strength, elevated.
Which of your strengths might you tend to overuse or underuse during holidays? Some of us become overly critical when under stress, overusing Judgement. Temper that strength by taking a few deep breaths to reset and open your mind. Others might forget that even a crabby relative deserves Kindness. Elevate your Kindness by speaking to him with kind words or striking up a conversation to get to know her better.
Fold all ingredients carefully and gently together to infuse your strengths into Thanksgiving, or any holiday. Feel free to add more of your unique blend of character strengths for added sweetness.
Remember that this recipe is your recipe. It is within your reach to have a delicious, strengths-fueled holiday. Choose your ingredients according to who you are at this moment and who you wish to become during the next holiday. And don’t forget to share it with your loved ones to multiply the goodness!
all your holidays and days be fueled by your strengths.
We don’t often appreciate what we have until it’s gone. This applies to people, like when a college student feels the absence of his parents after going off to school the first time. It applies to things, like when that old broken-down car finally gives out and you’re left without transportation. It applies to character strengths. Have you ever stopped to think: What would you be like without your top strengths?
Recently, I was asked to teach character strengths to participants in a 10-month positive psychology certificate program. We were at a week-long immersion taking place towards the beginning of the course. At this first immersion, deep personal connections are forged, and small learning pods are formed in preparation for the virtual portion of the program. I know because I graduated from this certificate program in 2014, assisted the faculty for 4 cohorts after that, and then became a faculty member.
When teaching strengths, I like to start with the scientific evidence behind character strengths then move quickly into giving participants the experience of what they are and why they matter. Consistently, there is one activity that can significantly influence whether we appreciate our top strengths. I featured this activity in my book 30 Days of Character Strengths: A Guided Practice to Ignite Your Best.Readers consistently share that it’s among the most memorable.
Strengths Activity With a Lasting Impact
The activity is simply to imagine your life without a top strength. In research, taking away something important and positive is called mental subtraction (Koo, Algoe, Wilson, & Gilbert, 2008). Participants in this study felt better having thought of themselves without something positive. When you think about it, this is counter-intuitive. Instead, we might think more easily about something we want but don’t have – better health, a nicer home – rather than starting with something we already do have.
Interestingly, when we think about boosting happiness and success, the pathways forward typically involve adding something like mindfulness or positive emotions. This evidence-based activity is different. It’s about subtraction. Without fail, after imagining a life without a top strength, each group I’ve worked with describes what their lives would be like in undeniably negative terms. Boring. Suffocating. Purposeless. Useless.
I’m careful not to leave anyone hanging out in a difficult space like that, so I always end with a reflection about why the chosen signature strength is important in participants’ lives. The descriptors become energizing again. Inspired. Authentic. Enlivened. Motivated.
Now It’s Your Turn
I encourage you to see for yourself. Below are the steps you can take. Be sure to find a quiet space and a 15- or 20-minute block of time.
Choose one of your signature strengths. If you haven’t taken the character strengths assessment yet, or if you haven’t updated your results within the past year, take the free survey. Then review your results and choose a strength from among the top 5 that captures your attention.
Close your eyes or fix your gaze softly on the floor or wall in front of you. Allow yourself to begin tuning into this strength. Notice how you use it each day in different parts of your life – with family, friends, or colleagues. Picture how it helps you connect with someone, achieve something, or simply feel happy. Focus on how you think, act, and feel when engaging this strength.
Next, imagine that you’re unable to use this strength for 1 month. If you chose Perseverance, you’re unable to finish anything or pursue a goal. If you chose Love of Learning, you’re unable to read a book or develop greater mastery of a skill. If you chose Kindness, there’s no caring for or helping others. If you chose Curiosity, there’s no internet surfing, new restaurants, or asking questions. Imagine in great detail what life is like without this strength. Imagine what you are like.
Write down a word or phrase that describes what you pictured. If you prefer, journal for a few minutes.
See The Bigger Picture
Now step back and look at the big picture. Living without our core valued strengths isn’t how we wish to live our lives. Sometimes in a workshop setting, tears begin to flow. This activity can strike an inner chord about who we are and what we value most in life, like the capacity to:
Persevere despite hardship,
Grow by mastering important skills and topics,
Help and care for others,
Explore new territory.
Imagining oneself and life without these capacities can feel painful. This is not an image of a flourishing life. Unfortunately, sometimes life does feel this difficult. Or worse.
The Good News: Your Strengths Are Always Accessible
We don’t always appreciate what we have until it’s gone. Now that you’ve imagined life without a signature strength, are you beginning to appreciate it in a new way?
The good news is you don’t have to live without this strength. In order to finish on a positive note, please repeat step 2. Do not end this intervention without repeating the second step:
Notice how you use it each day in different parts of your life – with family, friends, or colleagues. Picture how it helps you connect with someone, achieve something, or simply feel happy. Focus on how you think, act, and feel when engaging this strength.
Trust me, I skipped this step once myself to save time. It led me down a pathway of negativity that was hard to shake off the rest of the day.
Take a Next Step
If you’re interested in taking a deeper dive into your character strengths profile, consider working with me for 1.5 hours in myPower Up: Strengthening Your Strengths debrief session. I’m scheduling now for November, and there are a few slots remaining so grab your spot now, while you’re thinking about it!
Enjoy this newfound appreciation of
you and a key trait that helps you function at your most authentic and best.
Cherish this part of you. Bring it forth with abandon. There is only one of you,
and there is only one life for you to lead. Make it count by living into your
Algoe, S. B., Wilson, T. D., & Gilbert, D. T. (2008). It’s a wonderful
life: mentally subtracting positive events improves people’s affective states,
contrary to their affective forecasts. Journal of personality and
social psychology, 95(5), 1217–1224. doi:10.1037/a0013316
Character Day is an annual event dedicated to the development of character strengths. Character strengths are 24 human traits like gratitude, leadership, and honesty that cultivate what is right and good in communities, schools, organizations, and families around the world. If you wish to cultivate greater happiness and success in your life, unleashing your character strengths is a pathway forward.
For instance, a participant in a group I taught recognized how she often overplayed her top strength appreciation of beauty and excellence. This overuse led to unrealistic expectations of her team and of herself. She had an “aha” moment when she realized how the unintentional overuse of this strength kept her moving toward self-defeating perfectionism rather than her own potential.
Over time, she learned to notice these situations, to pause, and to intentionally dial down this strength. She was then able to engage more useful strengths, like prudence, to carefully plan her next moves. As a result, she became even more productive and less stressed.
Join in the fun – it’s not too late!
It’s not too late to join the more than 200,000 groups from 125 countries and 50 states by creating your own Character Day event. You can participate as an individual, group, or organization. Get started here.
For another approach to joining in, below are 18 ways to celebrate Character Day. This list provides activities, links to resources, and ideas for spreading the news to others.
Introduce Yourself or Someone Else to Character Strengths
If you’ve already taken the survey within the past year, invite someone close to you to take it by forwarding the above link. Explain that their survey results reflect who they are and what they do when at their best.
Familiarize yourself with the science behind the character strengths framework by watching the inspirational 8-minute video The Science of Character.
Boost Your Awareness and Learning
Working with someone who has also taken the survey, share stories about the other’s strengths. Give examples of when he or she used them and why you appreciate them. This foundational practice called “strengths-spotting” provides a common language of what’s strong. It also boosts your ability to notice and appreciate strengths in action.
Spot strengths in someone who rubs you the wrong way. Notice how they, and you, respond differently to being noticed and valued for positive traits.
Notice the character strengths all around you, even in your favorite book, movie, or TV characters.
Dive into a character strength that resonates with you right now. See how it cultivates excellence, boosts relationships, or elevates meaning.
Learn more about who you are at your best by purchasing and reviewing a character strength report tailored to your unique profile.
Post your top 5 signature strengths at home or work in a visible spot as a conversation starter.
Lead with a bit of research when introducing character strengths to your boss, a client, or a family member. Check out the world’s largest database on character strengths to locate key findings about character strengths in the workplace or parenting, character strengths and achievement or wellness, and a variety of other topics.
View your team or family through a lens of strengths by creating a grid of everyone’s top 5 signature strengths. Simply list each character strength along the bottom of flip chart paper, give each person 5 sticky notes, ask them to place their sticky notes by each strength, and watch the group profile emerge. Notice what the resulting profile says about the group.
Choose one of 70 research-based activities from positive psychology’s only field guide for practitioners: Ryan’ Niemiec’s Character Strengths Interventions. Choose from among exercises that boost awareness and use, enhance meaning and engagement, build resilience and problem management, or elevate goal setting, achievement, or mindfulness. Try one yourself, then offer it to a friend, team member, or family member.
Character Day typically occurs near the end of September each year. If you’d like to know the actual date or be reminded about it next year, subscribe to my newsletter.
Really, though, every day is character day. You don’t need an annual event to spread the research and practice of character strengths. On any given day, simply choose one of the practices that resonates most.
Perhaps there are other practices you’ve tried yourself. If you’d like to offer them for publication, email me at Jane@StrengthBasedLiving.com. I’ll include them with your name, if you agree, in my blog post next year.
In the meantime, enjoy Character Day, a global day of celebration of what’s best in you!
I recently returned from a once-in-a-lifetime, 3-week trip to Australia. I traveled across the world to 1) share the preliminary results of a study that Dr. Karen S. Whelan-Berry and I are co-leading and 2) enjoy the culture and hospitality of our Aussie friends Down Under. I’ll share more about the study in a future blog post.
Surprisingly, I noticed a slight language barrier even though everyone spoke English. I was unfamiliar with certain pronunciations and colloquialisms, which impeded my ability to understand and navigate with ease. On the 15-hour plane ride home, I was thinking about how similar this is to the language of character strengths: building fluency is key. The rest of this article explores the notion of fluency and how to boost your strengths fluency. Strengths fluency is the ability to express oneself articulately through the 24 capacities known as character strengths. The rest of this article explores the notion of fluency and how to boost your strengths fluency, so you can apply greater clarity and confidence to the adventures in your life.
Fluency smooths the journey
No matter where I visited – Melbourne, Port Douglas, or Sydney – I found myself asking the locals to slow their speech or repeat things. I came to understand that:
g’day = hello mate = informal address for friends and strangers how ya goin’ = how are you? arvo = afternoon avo = avocado barbie = barbecue (a grill) hooroo = goodbye
Interestingly, they don’t pronounce the “r” sound like we do in Chicago, so the word for afternoon sounded like avocado. Also, I wondered about how to answer the question: How ya goin’? I didn’t know at first. They were extending hospitality and I didn’t feel comfortable returning it.
Although these barriers seemed minor, I began to notice my frustration lessen as my knowledge grew. I experienced the benefits of fluency: clarity, greater ability to navigate, confidence in getting around. All of which led to deeper enjoyment of the adventure. If you’ve ever been in a situation where your native language isn’t spoken, or even sounds different, you can probably relate.
Why character strengths fluency?
Character strengths fluency is about learning a universal language that describes the virtuous traits of humans around the world. In truth, the “virtuous person” doesn’t exist. This journey is about becoming more virtuous, not arriving at a virtuous pinnacle. In fact, someone who thinks they don’t need to strengthen their character strengths might be underusing humility!
Developing your strengths fluency is a worthy investment. Consider that:
Speaking about strengths articulately and engaging them effectively helps cultivate the things you may want more of, like positive relationships, meaning, and accomplishment. In particular, in a recent study teamwork, love, and kindness were most strongly linked to positive relationships; curiosity and perspective to meaning; perseverance, perspective, and zest to accomplishment. (Wagner, et al., 2019).
Being able to put other people’s strengths into words helps you become skilled at strengths-spotting, the practice of naming and openly appreciating strengths. Strengths-spotting helps others internalize what’s best within them. Imagine how this gift, so easy to give, can provide a boost to your children, friends, clients, or team members!
Whether you’ve studied the character strengths framework extensively or are just curious about it, boosting your character strengths fluency will help you:
Build your capacity to rise to challenges and pursue new adventures
Communicate using a positive lens and framework
Appreciate the best in others
Express the best in yourself more often
How to boost your strengths fluency
The approach to developing strengths fluency is similar to learning a foreign language:
Vocabulary – learn the character strengths names and their definitions
Syntax – choose the strengths needed for each situation you face
Practice – experiment with applying the strengths
Immersion – dive in to expand your level of skills and knowledge
This is a non-linear and iterative process.
5 steps you can take
Below are 5 of the many ways you can boost your strengths fluency. Depending on your current level, one might resonate more than the others.
Take, or retake, the free VIA survey. If you haven’t taken it within the past year, it’s good to update your results. Although you’re not likely to see your top strengths move to the bottom or vice versa, individual strengths do sometimes shift based on life circumstances.
To learn about other facets of character strengths, like turning strengths inward, understanding your strengths tendencies, or building team strengths, please feel free to contact me at Jane@StrengthBasedLiving.com. We will clarify your interests and schedule time together.
Sometimes the best way to learn is to teach someone else. Share this work with others by inviting them to become more strength-based.
So how ya goin’? What resonates with you? Take a moment to consider how you will boost your strengths fluency in the global language of human virtue. Carve out some time to learn the vocabulary and syntax, to practice, and then immerse yourself in character strengths.
As for me, it’s arvo, and I haven’t had lunch yet. I have the fixings for avo toast, but I’m thinking I might throw a burger on the barbie. Hoo roo, mates!
NOTES Wagner, L., Gander, F., Proyer, R. T., & Ruch, W. (2019). Character strengths and PERMA: Investigating the relationships of character strengths with a multidimensional framework of well-being. Applied Research in Quality of Life. doi:10.1007/s11482-018-9695-z