If you could only learn one practice out of dozens of strengths interventions, what would it be? I think strengths-spotting is one of the most foundational and effective practices. Most people find that strengths-spotting is simple to learn, easy to practice, and eye-opening in terms of the benefits experienced.
One benefit of strengths-spotting is feeling seen and valued. Another is more easily connecting with the important people in your life, even some of the most difficult ones. Noticing and acknowledging strengths can transform your relationships with others, and the relationship you have with yourself.
If you’re unfamiliar with strengths-spotting, the “SEA” model lays the groundwork for an effective strengths-spotting practice. Otherwise, continue reading to find strengths resources and practices for your use in 3 ways:
- at work,
- in relationships,
- and for personal growth.
Which resonates with you at this moment? Select one, or try all three, to elevate your strengths-spotting practice.
Strengths-Spotting at Work
Who doesn’t want to feel valued for their contributions at work? Shifting from what’s wrong to what’s strong individually or as a team is crucial for boosting engagement and connection. Strengths-spotting can help. Here is a resource that offers 10 Ways to Be Spontaneous with Strengths-Spotting at work.
Integrate one into your work, like weaving strengths-spotting into your Zoom calls. Then make a plan to try all ten!
Strengths-Spotting in Relationships
Research tells us that higher recognition and appreciation of a partner’s character strengths is directly related to positive outcomes. It predicts greater relationship commitment, satisfaction, investment, intimacy, self-expansion, and support for goals (Kashdan, et al, 2017).
Tonight, when you sit down for dinner or even after dinner, instead of reviewing the day’s frustrations and complaints, have everyone share an example of what went well during the day. Then put a cherry on top and follow the SEA model for strengths-spotting each person.
If you are by yourself, spot your own strengths. This is an important way to enhance your relationship with one of the most important people in the world – you!
Strengths-Spotting for Personal Growth
Is there a signature strength that you question or feel confused about? For instance, some clients with humor or prudence at the top of their profiles wonder how these can be viewed as strengths. We all have blind spots about our best qualities, and we don’t always appreciate what we have.
Expand your point of view with this mental subtraction practice. It will help you recognize when and how a signature strength is essential to who you are and how you live your daily life.